Last week, while going through the analytics for this blog, I noticed something unusual - someone had watched an online video before landing on my site. Curious about where the traffic was coming from, I decided to take a closer look.
The video turned out to feature Eleanor de Freitas, which, given the connection to my blog, wasn’t all that surprising.
It began with her sitting on a sofa, fully clothed, answering questions about her escorting.
The man filming introduces her by saying, "I am here today with the fabulous Marylyn, whom we have found on AdultWork.com."
The video then shows them having sex on camera for around 20 minutes. The title? "Posh British Escort Shagged for Cash."
In my December 2012 blog posts, I explained that I ended my relationship with Ms. de Freitas after discovering she was an escort, although I never told her that was the reason. She was extremely upset by the sudden rejection, which I didn’t properly explain at the time, so she was confused.
Shortly afterward, Eleanor messaged a friend saying she was devastated—claiming I had “fucked and chucked” her, and complained that I’d defriended her on Facebook and refused to speak to her. That emotional reaction became the spark for what followed.
In an attempt to justify her distress to others, she began making up stories that I had mistreated her. What started as vague allegations of “abuse” quickly escalated. Encouraged by friends who told her to go to the police, she made a formal allegation of rape ten days later.
For years, her family and several feminists—including Julie Bindel, Harriet Wistrich, and Lisa Avalos, have accused me of lying, insisting that I fabricated everything. Their claim is that Eleanor was distraught because she had been raped, which is simply not true.
The video is relevant because it directly supports the context I’ve described: Eleanor was working as an escort at the time, something she openly discusses in the footage. It confirms what I had privately discovered, before ending the relationship. She then got upset at this sudden rejection, and went onto falsely accuse me of rape.
